she gets it from her mama...or maybe not

aries child, virgo mother.

when an aries child is born to a virgo parent, they may think they have nothing in common and sometimes can’t even believe they are related. this is a relationship that takes time and patience to develop. each must learn to understand where the other is coming from and to respect their different world views.
in many ways, the aries offspring and the virgo parent are opposites: aries is brash, dominant, and aggressive, always jumping into new things, and usually impatient. the virgo adult is detail-oriented and quiet, even shy, and works patiently toward goals.
breaking it down: if these two opposites don’t spend time to get to know and understand one another, the child will rebel and make bad choices. it is vital for the future of the relationship and the aries child for the virgo to make an effort to understand where her child is coming from and not to try and force her opinions upon her hard-headed child.


if my beloved mother read this, she would love the whole "hard-headed child" bit. vindication for her. maybe i am actually the one with the problem, naaaaaa...love you mommie!

*source: http://ariesonfire.tumblr.com/post/8632133018/aries-child-virgo-mother

art as therapy

i want to feel the love before i die, so i'm getting rid of the anger here first.

- wendy sax, screenwriter & fellow s.g.

showing up

a famous woody allen quote is "90% of success is just showing up." i first heard this quote in one of my acting classes at william esper. we were discussing the auditioning grind. this quote can be applied to  various aspects of our lives, mainly our relationships.


Women really want a man who is consistent, who shows up for her and who doesn't waiver. It's a man's grounded, single-pointed focus on following his purpose, plus showing up for his woman that proves to her that she can open up to him. A woman just can't open herself and give herself fully to a man she doesn't trust.


Call her bluff. See her hesitancy not as rejection but as a test to see if you are going to leave or stay. She will open up and give herself to the steadfast man whom she trusts. Be that man. Sometimes you have to fight for love. And sometimes you just have to show up, be present and let it emerge. 


for the full article:
how to trust, even after you've been hurt 
by mastin kipp